Things you never knew you didn’t know about youth hockey

We’re coming up on our first full-length house hockey season so I thought I’d let you in on everything you never knew you didn’t know about youth hockey. Because I’m finding out that there’s a lot more to being a hockey parent than all of the other sports Mr. Thistle and I have ever participated in, combined. And we’ve played a lot of sports. Man it’s complicated sometimes. And expensive. And smelly. So let’s cover all the things you need to know about youth hockey.

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The equipment

Oh, the equipment! You might think you know what you need to play hockey but if you’ve never had a kid in hockey or played yourself I’m betting there are a few items you never even thought about. There’s the obvious like the stick, helmet, skates, pads, gloves, jersey, socks, pants, and so on. But did you know that hockey socks often require a garter belt to hold them up? Yup. And special tape to tape around them to keep them from causing the shin guards to shift during play? And regular socks? They can cause problems for hockey players, like blisters. So there are performance socks. You don’t want to spend one gazillion dollars for your kid to play only to be sitting out because of nasty blisters. So you buy the fancy socks the instant you see any redness from your white Hanes brand socks. And what about waxed laces for those hockey skates? Regular old laces probably aren’t going to be on your kid’s skates for too long once they get serious about the sport. Oh, and there’s wax for the stick to keep the amount of ice build-up down that causes the stick to get waterlogged. And what about a bag to put it all in? Because, moms, this load of hockey mess isn’t going to fit in even your biggest mom bag. And you’re going to need to tape that stick with some stick tape – don’t forget that. And you don’t want to lose a toe or dull those freshly sharpened skates so you’re going to need a pair of skate guards.

Thinking maybe now is the time to sign your kid up for baseball? Yeah. You’ll definitely cut down on the amount of time it takes to get dressed before every game or practice. And your bank account will be so much prettier in all that nice black ink instead of the scary red that accompanies hockey fees. Which brings us to the next thing about hockey…..

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The cost

Mary and Joseph! The cost to play hockey is no joke y’all. Let’s put it this way: Hockey costs five times more to register for (this cost is only the registration….not the equipment listed above) than what t-ball cost us to register for, including all the necessary equipment (bats, jerseys, glove, etc.). FIVE TIMES! And, let me really hit it home by repeating…the registration ALONE is five times more expensive. That doesn’t include paying for ice time for practice in the off-season or outside of the once per week scheduled practice time. It doesn’t include the required “learn-to-skate” programs necessary before registering for a house league. It doesn’t include the various camps and schools put on during the summer. And the cost once your kid is out of the “under 8 league” (which we’ll only have one more season in before our boy ages out) jumps to 13 times more expensive than our old t-ball league.

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Believe me. I know how ridiculous those numbers sound. I am still in shock. And this is for house league only, which is really just the jumping off point where leagues are concerned. One mom confided in me that she spent over $10,000 on hockey fees alone for her son to play travel league last year. I’ll let you marinate on that one for a minute. WHAT?!

But, while the cost to register is crazy expensive, I’m finding that the real damage is done at our level of play is in logging ice time, chipping away at your wallet $15 at a time. The thing about hockey is that you can’t exactly practice it whenever you want unless you live in an area where it freezes solid and it’s wintertime. Nashville isn’t the place you can ask your dad to flood the backyard with a hose in winter so you can get some free practice time in. You can’t go down to a little pond in January to perfect your crossover or your swizzles. It’s just not happening in the south. So, short of strapping on a pair of rollerblades, you have to pay every time you step on the ice. And you can’t get better if you don’t practice. And hours on the ice are the only way to get better. So start coughing up $15 dollars like it’s your job. And then get a third job – like it’s your job.

I think it’s important to note here why we’re investing so much in a seven year old. It’s not because we’re crazy sports people. Even though we are. It’s not because we want our kid to grow up to be a successful, professional player in the NHL. Although we wouldn’t hate that.

It’s because our boy loves it. He hated soccer. He was bored with baseball. And he’s just not that into things that require his bilateral coordination, like bike riding. SPD has kept our boy from venturing out and doing hard things a lot of times. But hockey is the exception. We don’t know what it is about hockey but he’s a different kid out there. He’s not afraid to try new things. He’s not afraid of falling, getting hurt, the unknown. He’s not afraid of hard things when he’s on the ice. His confidence about hockey is unmatched. So, we invest. And we support. And Mr. Thistle takes a lot of peanut butter and jelly sandwiches to work so we can make it happen.

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The leagues

Seems simple enough. You just divide them all up by age and call it that. “Under 8″ or “9-10 league”. Nope. In hockey you have Intro league, Termites, Mites, Squirt, Pee Wee, and Bantam. These are all “house youth leagues”. Then you have travel league, elite league, and adult league. In adult league it gets even more detailed with Sunday leagues and non-contact leagues.

The craziest of all the leagues to me are the junior leagues like the North American Tier III hockey league. For players who are the best in their local community, leagues like the NA3HL are the next step. But many of these players are still in school and still live at home with their parents. That’s where billeting comes in. Ever heard of it? Yeah, me either. Junior league hockey players basically act as “exchange students” for the league. They move to another area of the country to join a team in the league and stay with a host, or billet, family. Apparently it’s an old tradition in the hockey world. And many professional players came through junior leagues before they joined the NHL – Steven Stamkos and Patrick Kane are a couple who played junior league.

Nuts. Just craziness. Hockey is an entirely different animal folks. And the hockey community is one quirky bunch of devoted and loyal enthusiasts. Crazy enough to host hormonal, smelly teenage boys they’ve never met in their home and make sure they make it to practice on time.

I can’t even wrap my brain around it. But Nashville has a NA3HL team so I know it to be true. If we end up being a host family you’ll know we’re hockey lifers.

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Hockey parent duties

First there’s the drive. Most people in the south aren’t lucky enough to live near an ice rink. They’re not like baseball fields folks. You can’t just make one out of your backyard or go to the park down the street to practice. One parent at our last camp told me he drives here from Kentucky. Now, mind you, the Kentucky/Tennessee state line is only about an hour one way from the rink. But that’s no short trip when you have to make it twice per week, minimum. We should know since our house is one hour from the closest rink. The crummy part is that there are three major ice rinks in the Nashville area, one organized by Olympic medalist Scott Hamilton. But we’re an hour from all of them. So you drive.

Then there’s the various miscellaneous duties: taping sticks, sharpening skates, deodorizing equipment, and scheduling camps/practice/games/tournaments/schools/private lessons.

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The best part

It can all be a bit overwhelming when you first start. But despite how much work, time, and money it takes to be a hockey family, the rewards are invaluable.

Hockey players are dedicated, have a super strong sense of camaraderie, unmatched skill, and crazy mental and physical stamina. They’re humble and strong and passionate.

And I’m so glad that this season of our life is a hockey season. You can find me shivering in the stands from September to March beside a bag full of smelly gear and a peanut butter sandwich in hand. But I’ll have a smile on my face. Because we’re a hockey family and we couldn’t be happier about it!

Peace, Love, and Eddie Vedder

I thought we’d start the week off with a little drama. I went back and forth on writing about it but it just kept sticking to my ribs over the weekend so here goes.

Far too often we hear celebrities, politicians, athletes and the like passionately, and often rather compulsively, make a comment in public that ruffles peoples feathers, only to be followed by the Monday morning apology for said political incorrectness/harshness/honesty/crassness. While I do think it is important to know when to apologize if you have truly wronged, hurt, or offended someone, I also think it is important to know when to stand by your convictions.

photo credit: Danny Clinch

photo credit: Danny Clinch

Eddie Vedder did just that when he released an official statement on the Pearl Jam website in response to his passionate anti-war speech he gave at a concert in London earlier in the month. I won’t link to the original speech here because it has some pretty heavy swearing. I mean, it’s a Pearl Jam concert so that’s not a huge surprise. But it’s not the main focus of this post anyway, the response is.

Instead of reneging on his fervent call for peace when the media grabbed hold of it, Vedder stood firmly by his convictions. What a refreshing change of scenery, if you ask me. Personally, I’m tired of people not taking ownership of the words that come out of their mouth. If you said it, own it. Own it when it’s right. Own it when it’s wrong. Own it when it makes you wildly unpopular. Own it if it steps on a few toes. Own it when it’s hard. But, just own it.

Now don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying we should just go around unapologetically offending people. And, while many would put him on one side or the other of the various wars going on around the world, I don’t think that’s what this is about. I think the point of Vedder’s speech is quite the contrary. His call is for more tolerance, not more hate. It’s a call for ALL sides to stop the craziness. It’s a rather rock and roll way of saying, “Can’t we all just get along?”

The part of his official statement that really stuck with me over the weekend was the part where he admits that he doesn’t know how to reconcile the conflicting emotions he feels when he sees his fans at a peaceful concert and then wakes up to death and destruction on the television, but he knows it can’t lead to apathy.

And that’s where it all comes together for me.

Apathy.

We might not know how to say it. We might not have all the words. We might have the wrong words. But there are some things that are worth saying. Because we feel it deep down in our core. We can’t just let them fall off because people don’t like to hear it. Or because we don’t like to hear ourselves say it. We can’t just let it go unaddressed because of how complicated it is to understand. I can’t understand the enormously complicated nature of the conflict between Jerusalem and Palestine. I will never understand how anyone shoots a plane of innocent people out of the sky over Ukraine. It hurts my soul to see the land-grabbing still going on in modern times when we know so much about the consequences. Border disputes? I can’t understand the politics of it all. I can get behind defending your country when someone is coming at you and not giving you any other choice. I can never get behind furthering a politician’s career by “conquering” another’s home and calling it “defense”. Diamonds, gold, oil, land, space, bombs. There seems to be no end to what we’ll fight for.

Until it’s peace. Because then, well, it’s just not popular.

I know this all sounds very hippie of me. (But, truthfully, I’ve never claimed to be anything but.)

It is time to stop fighting, man. And start fighting for peace.

And owning it.

This has been your Pearl Jam public service announcement for the week.

 

 

Imagine That — I’m Still Anti-War.

July 16 2014

Most of us have heard John Lennon sing

“You may say I’m a dreamer,… but I’m not the only one.”

And some of us, after another morning dose of news coverage full of
death and destruction, feel the need to reach out to others to see if
we are not alone in our outrage. With about a dozen assorted
ongoing conflicts in the news everyday, and with the stories
becoming more horrific, the level of sadness becomes unbearable.
And what becomes of our planet when that sadness becomes apathy?
Because we feel helpless. And we turn our heads and turn the page.

Currently, I’m full of hope. That hope springs from the multitudes of
people that our band has been fortunate enough to play for night
after night here in Europe. To see flags of so many different nations,
and to have these huge crowds gathered peacefully and joyfully is
the exact inspiration behind the words I felt the need to emphatically relay.
When attempting to make a plea for more peace in the world at a rock concert,
we are reflecting the feelings of all those we have come in contact with
so we may all have a better understanding of each other.

That’s not something I’m going to stop anytime soon. Call me naïve.
I’d rather be naïve, heartfelt and hopeful than resigned to say
nothing for fear of misinterpretation and retribution.

The majority of humans on this planet are more consumed by the
pursuit of love, health, family, food and shelter than any kind of war.

War hurts. It hurts no matter which sides the bombs are falling on.

With all the global achievements in modern technology,
enhanced communication and information devices, cracking the
human genome, land rovers on Mars etc., do we really have to
resign ourselves to the devastating reality that conflict will be
resolved with bombs, murder and acts of barbarism?

We are such a remarkable species. Capable of creating beauty.
Capable of awe-inspiring advancements. We must be capable of
resolving conflicts without bloodshed.

I don’t know how to reconcile the peaceful rainbow of flags we see
each night at our concerts with the daily news of a dozen global
conflicts and their horrific consequences. I don’t know how to
process the feeling of guilt and complicity when I hear about the
deaths of a civilian family from a U.S. drone strike. But I know that
we can’t let the sadness turn into apathy. And I do know we are
better off when we reach out to each other.

“I hope someday you’ll join us,…”

Won’t you listen to what the man said.

— Eddie Vedder

 

 

Greathall Productions and Jim Weiss: Storytelling CDs

Greathall Productions, Storytelling CD

Over the summer we were lucky enough to receive a package of storytelling CD’s by Jim Weiss and Greathall Productions. I thought we might receive one of the cd’s to review but I was excited to find that Mr. Weiss’s wife, Randy, had sent us FIVE to enjoy! So, we’ve had lots of storytelling going on over here lately! You can never have too much storytelling.

Jim Weiss has been a storyteller for over 25 years. This June marks Greathall Production’s 25th anniversary. Mr. Weiss and his wife formed Greathall Productions and went on to produce 48 storytelling CD’s that range from stories of western expansion to popular fairytales to Bible stories and more. Let me just say that he has the most PERFECT storytelling voice! I love it! And apparently I’m not the only one. He’s received over 100 major national awards for his storytelling.

For this review we were sent:

Gone West: Bold Adventures of American Explorers and Pioneers

  • Includes: 
  • Lewis and Clark
  • The Louisiana Purchase
  • Sacagawea
  • Railroad Men
  • And more!

A Collection of Rudyard Kipling’s Just So Stories

  • Includes: 
  • How the Whale Got His Throat
  • How the Camel Got His Hump
  • How the Rhinoceros Got His Skin
  • And more!

Fairytale Favorites in Story and Song

  • Includes: 
  • Stone Soup
  • Puss in Boots
  • The Shoemaker and the Elves
  • Rapunzel

Famously Funny: A Collection of Beloved Stories and Poems

  • Includes: 
  • The Emperor’s New Clothes
  • Jabberwocky
  • The Princess and the Pea
  • And more!

Tales from the Old Testament

  • Includes: 
  • Noah and the Ark
  • The Story of Ruth
  • David and Goliath
  • Queen Esther 
  • And more!  

 

Because I love, love, love storytelling and classic literature I’m a super huge fan of these CD’s. I’ll be real for a minute and tell you that I was listening the most intently out of all of us. I think these CD’s are a great tool for building listening skills, which is an extremely important tool for many areas of life, not just in school. I think the storytelling CD’s will be great for building retention over time as well. We listened to them at the dinner table and discussed afterward the events and the characters of the story. It’s interesting to see which parts they picked up on and which they missed. Oliver is still a little too young (4) for some of the longer stories. The Princess and the Pea, for example, is 15 minutes long. We lost him about 7 minutes in. And Jabberwocky? Who ever knows what Lewis Carroll is saying in that poem with all his made-up words. But, even though this short two minute poem seemed a little advanced for a 7 year old, we were still able to discuss the main plot and recognize which words might not be real words. We’re on our way to decoding the mysteries found in literature!

We’re using some of the shorter stories on the CD’s for bedtime stories on nights when mom and dad need a break from doing the reading ourselves. Weiss’s voice is the perfect bedtime story voice – super soothing and smooth. There are even CD’s specifically for bedtime in their store. They’re also great for “car schooling”. For instance, if you’re doing a Pioneer unit study, pop in the Gone West CD in the car and learn on-the-go!

I will definitely be adding to our collection of Jim Weiss CD’s every year for homeschool. I’m thinking these would make great stocking stuffers at Christmas time as well. (Yes, I know it’s only July but Christmas will be here before you know it!)

The CD’s range in age appropriateness from 3-12 and up so there’s something for everyone. But the REALLY exciting thing I discovered after reviewing these CD’s is that Greathall Productions also offers a complete storytelling CD of The Story of the World.

WHAT?! A complete reading of our history book? You mean on the days when I’ve read aloud way more than I’ve wanted to I can just pop in a Jim Weiss CD and he can read the history lesson for me? Um, yes please! How exciting! You can bet I’ll be saving up for that one!

He also offers a variety of readings of other unabridged stories in the Greathall Boutique.

It’s just an all-around great product, I think.

Pop on over and check out what Jim Weiss and Greathall Productions is all about.

 

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Mother Goose Time: A Closer Look

For those of you who come here to see pictures of the garden and farm animals you’ll just have to hang on with me through a few more homeschool posts this week. Life’s just been hockey, hockey, hockey…..and homeschool. Not much else going on over here. And while everyone else is on summer break we’re testing out curriculums and products and diving head first into our school year. I’ll get you that “chicken post” soon, I promise.

We’ve been hard at work over here with Mother Goose Time. We’ve been crafting, discussing, singing, and dancing. In between lessons we’ve also been swimming and sweating. Because, goodness it’s been hot!

Now that we’re nearing the end of our monthly box I thought I’d give an update on how Mother Goose Time has been working for us.

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Mother Goose Time includes a decent amount of “discussion” with each of the lessons. Oliver isn’t so into that part of the lesson. The discussion portion often just goes over his head. I’m still asking the questions and encouraging him to try to participate but he wants to skip past the talking and get to the working. Either he’s a more tactile/kinesthetic learner than auditory or he’s just a preschool boy who’s tired of hearing mom yap about what types of things can be found on a beach. Either way, he’s just not feeling that part most days.

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He’s a little interested in calendar time and he really likes the music and dancing portion. But, what I’m a little surprised by is his love of handwritten work. The boy seems to be into worksheet-style work. If he needs to write something for the lesson he’s super into it. If he needs to color it, no problem. If he has to sit and listen to you read a story…..not so much. He’s actually asked for more worksheets. The problem is that Mother Goose Time isn’t a worksheet and writing heavy curriculum….so far. Since we’re in a summer review box I’m curious to see if the regular school year boxes will have more letter writing practice and such. The boy just wants to write his letters and numbers. Who knew?

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But there are no complaints in the crafts and games department. He’s loved EVERY craft and game included. I think he would craft all day long if I had the resources laid out around the clock for him. Since the discussion is the bulk of the lesson, and he’s not interested in expanding on this area at all, the day often goes by super quick. So, to compensate for the areas we’re lacking in we’ve often combined a couple days into one. If I ask him what kinds of things he can find on the beach he’s going to tell me one or two things and want to move on. So, I usually try to prompt him with these questions during his crafts. That way he’s distracted a little by the fun part and forgets that he wants to stage a coup over the other part. I get more discussion and thought out of him this way.

But that also means I have to keep the crafts coming. So, some days we’ve done a sunglasses craft immediately followed by the next day’s sand castle craft. All while sneakily “discussing” the lesson.

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Big brother helps with discussion on days when I just can’t get Oliver on board. Owen will answer the questions and Oliver usually agrees with whatever his brother thinks. He does a great job of encouraging Oliver to participate (even if most days Oliver would just rather paint). Thank goodness for easy-going older siblings and little brothers who look up to them.

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Mother Goose time does include a “More Reading and Writing” and “More Math” book for kids who want do more advanced work. We’ve done a couple of the pages but the trouble we’re having with those books is that Oliver isn’t quite ready for them. He likes that they look like worksheets but the actual material is beyond his level right now. So, I think the only thing we’re lacking is more repetitive activity sheets on his level. Something similar to the “More Reading and Writing” and “More Math”, but not at an advanced level, would really round out our day.

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Once we dive into a regular school year box I’ll let you know what the major differences are and if it changes our daily work flow or not. I think we’ll keep using Mother Goose Time either way. But, I might add in some more “meat” with ABC’s and 123′s worksheets instead of letting Mother Goose Time serve as our only curriculum.

In the meantime we’ll keep crafting our way through our summer!

 

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July 21, 2014 - 12:51 pm

Sarah Hoeft - I just ordered it for August! I can’t wait to start up with my little Natalie. Thank you so much for writing about this so I could learn that mother goose time was around and so cool.

A gentle reminder. It’s SPD.

SPD, sensory processing disorder

The thing about Sensory Processing Disorder is that it can be a sneaky little thing. What often looks like frustrating, typical kid behavior can actually be a sign of the dysfunction happening in the brain. It’s easy to get comfortable with kids who’ve made a lot of progress and forget that there’s still a huge work going on in their brain for tasks that seem simple enough to us. A lot of times the behavioral response can look like a distracted kid, an aloof kid, or a kid who simply doesn’t take the time or energy to listen. But what’s really happening is the misfiring connection between what you told them to do, what they heard, and what they’re trying to do.

So, this is for those parents just starting their journey who might not know and for those who’ve come a long way with their kids and need a reminder. It’s not misbehavior. It’s just SPD.

Those shoes you told your child to put on? Yeah. He really can’t see them…RIGHT IN FRONT OF HIS FACE!

It’s so easy to get frustrated when you’ve said it 6,000 times, “Go put your shoes on.” Especially when you’re running late and need to get out the door now. You even bought Crocs so they could just slip them on and go. No tying. No helping. Just locating and slipping on. And yet, some days it can seem like an act of Congress to locate the shoes. You’re standing in the next room and you can literally see your kid walking right past the shoes over and over. It’s enough to make you want to pull your hair out because it seems so simple. But the truth is, he really just can’t see them. It’s not that he’s lazy or that he’s just not trying or that he’s plotting to make you nuts. He just can’t see them because the information isn’t processing for some reason. That reason, in very scientific terms, is because of trouble with space perception related to a dysfunction in our vestibular-visual integration. Yeah…that. Take a deep breath and remember that low self-esteem can be a bi-product of sensory disorders and you don’t want to break your child down over something as trivial as finding a pair of crocs. Scream into a pillow and go help him out. He’ll get it. He WILL get better at it. But it will likely pop up here and there and it’s good for everyone to remember what’s actually going on.

Now, I feel it is important to point out that sometimes he might not be trying. Sometimes he might be watching TV more than looking for his shoes. And, all kids do that sort of thing. And it CAN be super typical childhood behavior to have trouble with attention to such tasks. Sometimes kids with SPD are just typical kids. And sometimes it’s SPD.

It’s been bedtime for over 30 minutes but he can’t sleep because the rain/the fan/the cat/the light/the dark…….pretty much anything and everything.

The blessing and curse of SPD is those darned senses. If your kid has a heightened sense of smell/taste/hearing/sight then you know what I’m talking about here. Couple that with being seven and four years old in a big, scary world with anxiety on tap and you’ve got a recipe for a tricky bedtime routine. Our sweet boys know the drill. We take baths, wind down, read a story, and it’s lights out by 8 or 8:30, depending on the season. But without fail, someone hears/smells/feels something that gets their blood pumping and they resort to coming downstairs at least a million times to tell us of the crisis. It’s usually a piece of paper moving from the breeze of the fan. Or a slight rattle of the fan’s pull chain against the glass fixture, or the cat sneaking into the room to sleep on the bed. Or a car with a muffler too loud five miles down the road that sounds like “thunder”. All of these things seem like the excuses a typical child would make to delay bedtime. But for the kid with SPD these are big fears. Their baseline anxiety level is so high at any given moment that something seemingly insignificant can truly scare them. Most nights it’s tough love from the downstairs crew. They’re sent back upstairs to try to overcome those fears on their own. Of course they’re reassured that mommy and daddy are right downstairs and they have nothing to fear. If they simply cannot fall asleep and we see that they are reaching a critical point then we go up and turn on the light/fix the noise/reassure, reassure, reassure. One thing that’s tricky to balance with SPD is being sensitive to the dysfunction while not allowing the child to manipulate you to get what they want. A kid who’s learned unhealthy coping mechanisms for the disorder will manipulate their world to stop whatever it is that makes them uncomfortable. In order to grow well-rounded kids we work to find the balance between challenging them enough and learning to lean into the sensitivity. I think that’s just parenting in general though. Finding that balance. But in the meantime, don’t forget that your kid does have real anxiety going on and they’re just looking to find a way to eliminate that anxiety, not just challenge your bedtime rules. Some things we’ve done to help alleviate anxiety: leave a light on so it’s not so dark; stuffed animal sleeping buddies; sleeping downstairs on the fold out couch during thunderstorms so they’re in closer proximity to mom and dad; reassuring them that the cat has been locked in another room during the night; and adjusting the fan so it doesn’t make annoying noises.

 Prepositions are a foreign language.

Part of the trouble with locating things like shoes and socks and hats that might not be in their designated place is the preposition you’re using. Oh, you thought it was clear when you said, “Look under the couch”? Well, sure. Seems simple enough. But those words like under, over, on, above, inside, within, near, across, against, between, by, before, and after are pretty much a foreign language to some kids with SPD. The science gets very technical, but again, it stems from trouble with spacial perception. Many times at therapy, the boys participated in exercises to “help them know where their bodies where in space”, because they just didn’t know. You say under the couch, but what that actually means to them might not be what you think. So, don’t forget that prepositions are tricky. Sometimes it takes a few tries, or a few hundred. These cards are a good helper for teaching prepositions and for continued reinforcement.

All of us with kids who have SPD want them to “graduate” therapy and move up the ladder of progress and live with as few sensory struggles as possible. And it’s super great when you can start to see change happening. But it’s also easy to get caught up and forget that sensory dysfunction still lingers, even in small doses, below the surface. And once you’ve reached a certain point in all the progress it’s easy to assume these little annoyances are just that – inconvenient childhood behavior. But for the SPD kid, it’s so much bigger than it looks, even after he’s come a long way.

In our home, even though we no longer go to therapy, sometimes we have to revisit some of those same strategies for coping that we learned in our sessions – breathing deeply, small challenges and goals, reasonable expectations. I think it models to our children that, while no one is perfect, it’s always a good idea to continue to work on personal growth – to look inward at what our weaknesses and strengths are. And to not forget that we are all human and we make mistakes, sensory disorders or not, and we would all do well to show as much grace as possible. {Speaking to myself here about the grace. Boy do I still need practice in giving it!}

And, from experience, keeping that pillow close by to scream into during shoe-finding time covers a multitude of sins.

 

 

 

 

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